When you love a little boy so much that he wants to kill you…
In this episode, we kick things off by diving into the human nervous system, precisely the adaptive response to our nervous system, and adaptive neuroplasticity theory. Dr. Aimie is a leading expert on the subject through her clinical research, medical training, and “hands-on” experiences as a foster parent. She began helping children with trauma-based behavior issues. “Most people don’t realize how much early trauma impacts our nervous system and brain function forms,” says Dr. Aimie.
Dr. Aimie is a Board Certified Preventive Medicine Physician specializing in Adaptive and Attachment Pain Syndromes and optimizing our nervous system to achieve our best health and self no matter what type of trauma may be in our past. She earned her medical degree at Loma Linda University, has a Masters in Biochemistry, a Masters in Public Health, and trained three years as a general surgeon before her health crashed.
In this podcast, we cover:
- The remarkable story of transformation between Dr. Aime and her adopted son
- How to recognize your ‘three states of being”
- What unconditional love can do for the nervous system
- Why the trauma of COVID lockdowns makes people more susceptible to illness
- The science behind why humans do best living in a community or tribe
- How biological toxins causing inflammation make people feel insecure through their nervous system
Can your relationships affect your physical health?
The challenges Dr. Aimie faced with her adoptive son is what prompted her to dive into attachment theory. She began to research what attachment is and how an attachment disorder might be “rewired” later in life.
Because according to Dr. Aimie, a person’s attachment style is entirely developed by age one year. At that age, each individual is either securely attached or has an insecure attachment (which brings all the insecurities that come up when we make connections and our ability to be vulnerable with others.)
Dr. Aimie began to learn how attachment, or what we call the attachment style, gets wired into our nervous system.
The nervous system is our survival system, and we have three different survival states: fight, flight, or freeze.
Our physical bodies can only stay in survival mode for so long until we eventually experience overwhelm, and our bodies shut down.
Dr. Aimie also talks about how our attachment styles affect our immune system. The nervous system and immune system are intertwined, leading to the connection between our attachment abilities (or lack of) and our immunity.
Why is society trending toward higher and higher numbers of people with insecure attachment styles?
According to Dr. Aimie, our early years of life should include dopamine releases with healthy relationships–connections with a caregiver who loves us unconditionally. A healthy childhood includes getting into a flow with our caregiver, who we trust completely. This leads to moments of joy, connection, and a nonverbal dance of understanding between the two of you.
In today’s society, mothers are finding it challenging to be fully present with their young children. Dr. Aimie points out that moms today are distracted. There are millions of potential distractions around now. But Dr. Aimie doesn’t get into the blame game. She paints the picture of how today, whatever the distractions or reasons may be, mom’s are missing out on moments where they would generally have moments of joy and connection. This leads to dopamine deficiency.
Dopamine deficiency is why so many people today have lower energy and less motivation. This is also why so many people procrastinate and develop the habit of getting a dopamine rush by pushing the deadline, getting things done at the last minute. Lack of dopamine also leads to substance abuse and behavioral addictions.
Dr. Aimie Appigian’s message to the world is you can bio hack your nervous system to find healing over severe trauma or minor trauma in less time. Skip years of traditional therapy and feel better quicker through one of her programs.