He was hustling hard but not happy.
Cary Jack spent several years hustling in the way many entrepreneurs understand — 100+ hour workweeks, chasing material success, and focusing on profits. (You know, that Gary Vee type hustle.) Cary was working his tail off in New York City with his brother, who was also his business partner. They were a dynamic duo who founded a software startup and put together a seven-figure venture capital deal. Big players were ready to deliver the money that would take their business to the top.
But Cary and his brother had a “come to Jesus moment” that stopped them from signing the contract. In this episode, you will find out why Cary felt trapped and unfulfilled and why a short stint living in Thailand changed his whole approach to business — and life!
Cary Jack is a lifestyle entrepreneur, author, podcast host, professional actor/model, biohacker, eco-warrior, martial artist, and humanitarian striving to positively impact this planet.
As the founder of The Happy Hustle, Cary’s mission is to educate, inspire, and entertain while reminding you to enjoy the journey, not just the destination, as you Happy Hustle for a life of passion and purpose.
In this podcast, we cover:
- Cary’s journey from a stressed-out startup founder living in a crowded, noisy city to a happy hustler with purpose, experiencing joy and financial security in the Montana mountains.
- How Cary climbed out of a pit of depression and loss
- What his Kung Fu Master told him as a kid explains why Cary always has multiple income streams
- Cary’s “10 Alignments” to a balanced, happy life
- Cary’s “happy hustle hack” to finding the love of your life
- How powerful “I am mantras” work to manifest your dreams and visions
- Some tech tools Cary uses to help build financial abundance
What made Cary stop and say, “Whoa, I can’t go through with this tech startup deal?”
Wheeling and dealing as a tech startup founder and reaching that point when the VC was ready to go, that was everything he had worked for. He thought that was the life he wanted. Cary wanted to be a tech startup founder. He and his brother busted their asses for 18 months, wearing the same fancy suit to every meeting, and when they reached that goal, Cary had a realization: “Holy crap, we can’t take this money. This money comes with a five-year clause.”
Cary understood why VCs would want him to be invested and committed to the deal. Living in a “little shit-box apartment in Queens, New York,” sharing a king-sized bed with his brother, Cary realized his place was not the Big Apple. He missed the Montana mountains and the Florida beaches where he spent childhood.
This taught Cary how important your environment is to your happiness.
“It’s all about living that blissful balance both professionally and personally.”
Cary has a fascinating career journey that became his life journey. He started with a career and no personal life—all work and no play. Now he lives a “happy hustle” life that brings fulfillment on a spiritual level along with a daily purpose that brings him more money than he’s ever made before. His time as a tech startup founder brought him to severe burnout. Today, he has found his true calling: helping purpose-driven entrepreneurs find balance in their life.
Flyfishing, soccer, and archery are three hobbies Cary is passionate about, and his blissful balanced approach to life allows him to enjoy these interests without any feelings of guilt.
What interests or hobbies get you excited? Maybe it’s time to find more balance in your life? If you are hustling but not feeling happy along the way, be sure to listen to Wade’s conversation with Cary Jack. Wade says in this episode that no other guest has ever laid out the steps to a balanced, successful life better than Cary.
Check out this episode if your career is out of balance and you feel trapped or in a rut.
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Wade Lightheart: Good morning, good afternoon, and good evening. It's Wade T Lightheart with BiOptimizers with another edition of the Awesome Health show. And today we have none other than Cary Jack living The Happy Hustle life full of blissful balance. He's a lifestyle entrepreneur, author podcast, host professional actor, model, biohacker, martial artists, and humanitarian striving to make a positive impact on this planet. As the founder of The Happy Hustle, his mission is to educate, inspire, and entertain while reminding you to enjoy the journey, not just the destination as you happy hustle for a life of passion and purpose. Cary Jack: Thank you brother. I appreciate it. I'm happy to be here. Wade Lightheart: I was on your show a few weeks back. It was a lot of fun and I guess a lot of people, maybe you can give us, like you're out in the middle of nowhere in Montana, you're there for a reason. You're, you know, you've been into biohacking, the whole health thing. You're a business and entrepreneurs, you think commercial or all these different things. So that's an interesting combination in the world. And I think right now there's a lot of people who have found themselves into cities. They're recognizing you know, in this COVID era that the cities aren't supporting them, they're caught in the machine of the world. They're in the commute, they're in the grind. Now they're working from home and they're like, wait a minute. Maybe I don't have to live in a city. Maybe I can kind of leverage technology and go back to this kind of health world. But you're kind of a, you kind of figured that all out early. Can you give us a little background on yourself and then how you got to the happy hustle and what you're doing these days? Cary Jack: Yeah, man. Well, it kind of started first as me just hustling you know, up to no good doing things for the wrong reasons, focus more on success and profits. And I found myself in the abbreviated version hustling, but not happy, you know, a hundred plus hour weeks. I've always been an entrepreneur, but I was working my tail off in New York City for my tech startup, with my brother business partner and best friend. And we were soliciting this, you know, seven figure VC funding deal. And we're meeting with IBM and Microsoft and all the, you know, the big players. And, you know, we ended up getting the seven figure VC funding deal, but we burn out, you know, we really burn ourselves out and we couldn't sign the contract. We couldn't take the money. We just, it was it was a real come to Jesus moment, you know? And so from that point on we, I moved to Bangkok, Thailand. My brother went back and got his masters. And over in Thailand, I lived there for about 10 months. I figured out a better way, a better way to work and live. And Wade Lightheart: I just want to interject on that for a second, because this is a common element that I think digital entrepreneurs go through and stuff is like, you kind of go through the mill, your burnout and you go to Southeast Asia and then you want to come back with a new plan because you're forced into this kind of like a different life. But there's really interesting lifestyle in Southeast Asia. I did the same thing and, and I love Southeast Asia. I think it's awesome. A beautiful culture is a very different way, tropical climates and just a different approach to life. Because like, if you're caught in the cities there, it's, it's super intense. Like it's, if we think it's intense here, there's just another level of people and intensity and pollution and all this, but then you've got these local communities and co-op workplaces and things like that where everybody's just kind of got out of the machine and they're rediscovering the joy in life. Cary Jack: Yeah. That's true. Wade Lightheart: But there's a point that you, but you've got to figure out, okay, well, the joy of life is good, but I still got to make a living. So, so continue on when you did the 10 a month recovery, you know, YEAH. Cause cause that whole digital world is kind of like, I was just talking about this with my business partner, Matt yesterday. It's like, you know, the whole, for example, the San Francisco tech scene, it's like, you're kind of in this crazy 15 to 20 hour, a day, race against time and you burn yourself to crisp. And hopefully you get the big payoff and, and, and that thing. And, but for most people they don't 99.9% of the people don't make it there's those point ones or they get vetted by the VCs and you do all the work and they make all the money. And, but you w I want to make that decision point. I want to go to the decision point before you went to Thailand, like in that come to Jesus moment, what was that like? What come up here comes the cash here comes the dream. What, what, what, how did you say I can't do this? Cary Jack: Yeah, it's a, it's a, it's a good question. Because honestly, that was everything we worked for. You know, that was everything we wanted. We wanted to be the tech startup founders. We were wearing the fancy suits that we got because I've been in the entertainment world as well for years. And, you know, we got these fancy suits doing a modeling gig. So we recycled those every day, wear the same suit, same fancy clothes to the same media and said, you know, like we were just going to networking, meet, you know, meetups and crash. And we work gatherings and all the things to get to where we want it. Like we busted our ass for a year and a half to get this deal. And then we realized, Holy crap, we can't take this money. You know, this, this money comes with a five-year clause. Rightfully so if they're going to give you that much money, they want to make sure you're invested and committed. Cary Jack: And we were like, this is the next five years of our life. And what we were doing still has merit today. I mean, it's a, it's a big data play essentially, but we were quantifying feedback and we put an algorithm behind feedback and we started in the entertainment world, but then it quickly, you know, saw validity in the job market, in the dating world and you know, also different types of industries. And so that's where big players like IBM and Microsoft got attraction, but at the end of the day, we lost like our real purpose behind it. You know, it was more for a paycheck. And I think a lot of people out there listening can probably resonate where you just get caught up in the grind. You're caught up in, you know, the, the day-to-day routine and you, then there's something called a sunk cost fallacy where you, Oh, I've already invested this much time. Cary Jack: I have to keep going. I have to see it through. And a lot of people get stuck in, in that, in that phase. And we were stuck and that came to that Kat that, you know, that catalyst that moment of all right, we got to decide, are we signing this paperwork or not? Are we taking this money or not? And we had a little, you know, shitbox apartment in Queens, New York, we were sharing a King size bed, my brother and I, and we, you know, we had just, it was a rough life. I know I'm a nature guy. I grew up half in Montana, half in Florida. I grew up half on the beach, you know, surf and skate, and then half in the mountains playing cowboy, camping, fishing, hunting, hiking. And there was a lot of you know, there is none of that in New York, neither, neither side. Wade Lightheart: Right. Cary Jack: And so we weren't happy in our environment. I think that's a good distinction for everyone to just take stock in their environment, you alluded to it early in the interview, but it's important to really, you know, think is your environment bringing you happiness? So New York wasn't, you know, the, so that was a huge factor. The five-year commitment to something that we weren't passionate about. Obviously that's a huge factor, you know, signing five years of your life away. The other component was who we were in getting the funding from didn't feel right. You know, and, and you have to trust your intuition and you have you know to really think about what is your soul, you know, crying for, what is it really telling you? And so those factors really played into our decision and we ultimately pivoted and folded the tech startup, but that's kinda how it came to be Wade Lightheart: Beautiful. Beautiful. And so you made that decision and that you obviously closed down the company or whatever, Cary Jack: Yeah. Wade Lightheart: And then took off to Southeast Asia. Cary Jack: Yeah, pretty much. I mean, Wade Lightheart: Because you need it kind of defrag Wade Lightheart: From that whole thing. You know, I remember when I went through my burnout, I remember my start. I was in Panama at the time. And I remember saying that the NFL football playoffs started and I liked football, but I hadn't watched any that. And I remember saying, okay, can I sit down and watch one game, which was three hours. And, and I remember sitting, I was in the boat 15 minutes, 20 minutes into the game, and I'm having this sense of guilt that I'm not working and I'm going, is this really healthy? Cary Jack: Yeah. Wade Lightheart: I have a kid here with heck is going on. Right. Cary Jack: True man. Wade Lightheart: And that wasn't a business not related to BiOptimizers. I was running three companies at the time and I was, one of them was this startup that was in another area that, that grant grinded me. So let's talk. So let's talk about that move you. What did you do in those 10 months? Cary Jack: I mean, I basically, you know, just live this carefree lifestyle, you know, I was driving around a scooter. Well, I drove. And so funny story, the one thing that all of the Tor books agree on in Southeast Asia is just whatever you do, don't drive. Well, my first week there I'm like, let's rent an RV. Oh, no, I rented an RV. Basically it was like a, a 15 foot RV, like truck style, you know, with about six people that I randomly met at a hostel. And we would cruise it all over Thailand and hit all the national parks from coast to coast. So that was an interesting found myself at the full moon party, you know, scuba diving and doing all the things after that. I got at Ko Pha Ngan here, whatever. Yup. Got a contract with a pretty big talent company over there, you know, just cause I've been acting modeling in the States. Cary Jack: I had a, you know, a book that a AK portfolio that could get me work over there. So, you know, and there's, there's not that many token white guys over in Southeast Asia there, here in the States, I'm a commodity, but over there unique, right. Especially with my mustache and sideburns, RIGHT. You know so there I was working, you know, doing the active modeling thing and then having a lot of fun looking back, you know, that was another really pivotal time in my life because I was just given away my key, you know, growing up, doing martial arts we cultivate chi energy and I was giving it away freely to everyone and anything, you know, like it was a survivor day for Carry and I honestly, you know, found myself a little bit depressed and like unhappy with who I was. Cary Jack: So I started to then build my self up more. So like I've always been into personal development and self improvement, but then I started to actually share what I was doing with others. And then I, you know, created more so like Carrytech.com and The Happy hustle was born. And that's kind of where the birth came from was just like, all right, I'm going to work online because I want to be location independent. I want to create my own schedule. You know, these are some of the components to my decision and I, and I want to be, you know, making like my own decisions for my own future. And so I, you know, being in the entertainment world and I've never really had a real job per se, but I knew that, you know, I wanted to be my own boss. I wanted to be in control of my own destiny. Cary Jack: And so those were the components that kind of led to this whole, you know, this now journey I'm on, which is happy hustling, you know, and for me, it's all about living that blissful balance in both professionally and personally. And I think a lot of people out there, you know, listening can probably relate to being out of balance in one capacity or another. And that's really what I was struggling with was I was out of balance in New York, right. I I was focused all on work. Like you were too, you know, you've burned out because you were focused on where you couldn't even watch a football game, you know? And so I think that now is my true calling. What I'm so passionate about solving is that problem of imbalance specifically for purpose-driven online entrepreneurs. Wade Lightheart: I think you bring up a point. And I think everybody that goes through the burnout situation or the disillusionment sometime, sometimes when you're chasing kind of the, the, the, the, you know, that Chris Sendo of business or economics or status within a field or whatever. And then you get to the point where you realize that this is not a game that winning is not really winning. Winning is a form of shackling, right. Yeah. I call it the golden handcuffs. YEAH. And I remember when I was a personal trainer, I coached people that were in those situations. They, they had everything that you would want in life. They had the titles, the corporations, the family that, you know, the crib, like all the cottage up in the North and all that sort of stuff. And, you know, I would coach these people who were hiring me to get fit. Wade Lightheart: And I said, well, it's getting fits, not the issue. It's like, we need to get discovered. What do you think you're going to get from being fit? What's the payoff for you internally? And in the end, most of them just wanted maybe to go build a boat in Southeast Asia. They want it to maybe work in their carpentry. They want it to enjoy their life, but they were so locked in the system they can't. And when a lot of them would, and some of them did, some of them broke out of those patterns. There is a period of six months a year, sometimes two years where they do you feel this kind of, I don't know, it's, it's kind of like a loss. It's like, you've let go of the dream. You let go of what was driving you for so long. And you kind of go into the Valley of despair, almost like, well, now what, what am I going to do now? Wade Lightheart: I'm not defined, my identity is not defined by this future goal. That's now not going to transpire. And I don't know what the new future goal is now. So then who am I, what am I doing? Oftentimes, people, you know, start partying or do drugs or going to sex rampage Yeah or all of the above, Yeah right and which kind of takes you deeper into the Valley. And then you're like, okay, well, those things I can't mitigate stimulation. And then, then you come out of that. So, but then, then they come birth the new idea, and this is what I call this balanced living idea, which has, seems you find it. So you're coming out of that kind of Valley of darkness, if you will. You know, and so what came in at that point? W w what was the next step? Cary Jack: Well, the next step, I mean, was really just clarifying my message and my mission, you know, and I really, I've always been big in the health and performance, and I've always been an athlete. And that has that, that kind of led me down the biohacking rabbit hole truthfully, like I was Happy Hustling, but it was still a side gig for me. Like, I actually partnered up with a mutual buddy of ours Anthony at it, and biohacking secrets. And, you know, we, we created this, this pretty, you know, legit biohacking company and a coaching program. And we went deep down the rabbit hole of health and performance and working with 400- 500 CEOs to Olympic gold medalist and pro athletes and everyone in between. And that, that was a nice time in my life to really allow me to build the Happy Hustle organically on the side without pressure to monetize. Cary Jack: So I was creating content, my framework, my system, in addition, I was learning health performance, biohacking, mindfulness, all these, you know, high-end tactics. So that was about a three-year interlude, you know, of working bio-hacking happy hustle modeling slash acting still, you know, living this dynamic lifestyle. And in addition, I've met my fiance now, fiance after a time of abstinence, I came back from the, you know, Southeast Asia and I had just, I had to cultivate that energy. And so I went cold Turkey, no party, no drug, no sex, no nothing. And I really fell back in love with myself, you know, and I think that's an important component. Like a lot of people they're, they're searching for love. They're, they're looking for this perfect partner, but they're not the 10 that they seek, right? Yes. And if you want a 10, you gotta be a 10. Right. So I wasn't finding my perfect partner and I, I, I then fell back in love with myself. I worked on filling my cup. So then I could give from my overflow to my inner circle and others. And that's kind of was interesting enough. My fiance found herself in that time period as well, practicing self-love and we weren't looking for each other, but we ended up finding one another because we were both in that state, Wade Lightheart: Same wavelength. You're on same wavelength as they say, you know? Cary Jack: Yep, exactly. So that was a cool time. I came back, you know working in the health and performance field, acting modeling, you know, I've, I've always been, that's always been a part of my life. I did Second City improv for about three and a half years in Chicago. And I, I find myself doing a lot of like, you know, commercials, I've done Jeep and Corona Michelob, ultra, and Home Depot, and, you know, just so a bunch of fun roles that like, I get to, you know, be a character on. And then I've done some, you know, some fun films with people like The Rock and, you know Michael Bay and like just like little parts, little stuff here and there. So that was a good part, you know, like, ha I always fun fact Wade, you know, my, my, this could be bad advice too. Cary Jack: Now looking back, it probably, you know, it was questionable advice. I don't know if I would follow it again, but my Kung Fu master and he's a Taoist priest master chin. I remember when I was a little boy, he told me, Cary always have seven plates spinning on seven sticks. Therefore, if one drop, you have six left. So I was like, Oh, I'll do seven things. I'll always do seven things. You know? So I was like, do it ethic bodily, you know, entrepreneurship, happy hustle at this, that coaching. In addition, I have a whole eco business with my brother business partner, best fan. And we started a new company still to date is it's called sustainable breakthroughs. And then we have eco printer evolution, but it's fighting plastic pollution and climate change. And I'm very passionate eco warrior growing up in the mountains and on the beach. Cary Jack: So moral of the story, I was up to all these different things in that interlude, you know, and, and growing and building and spinning seven plates. So that's kinda, you know, wherever we were at. And then it wasn't until probably, you know, late 2019 is when I really focused. Okay. Now let's go in on Happy Hustle. Cause I see this is really my calling. I feel it, you know, it's starting to get momentum. I still have my eco business with my brother that he runs point on. And I still, from time to time, I just got an audition, you know, for a pretty cool gig here in Montana. You know, through my agent. So stuff comes up, but this is my focus. This is my priority, the Happy Hustle. Wade Lightheart: Beautifully said, now I know that you've gone from the seven plates to the 10 alignments that allows you to be still hustling, but maintaining, you know, you cashing your purpose and maintaining your happiness and that sort of thing. I think that's I think that's kind of the ultimate goal that we're seeing emerging in the, I wouldn't say it's one of the positive aspects of the current world situation is people's like, wait a minute. You know, everybody's been forced to put a pause on things and in that pause, there's a moment of reflection. And then there's like, I, I need to, somehow I need to manage this insane technological wheel that, that seems to can spin us little biological bodies out of control. And you've come up with the 10 alignments that allows you to kind of, you know, bring forth the happy hustle you want to. And it's obvious. I mean, you just radiate happiness. And I think that's the first time we talked, it uses out of every pore of your body. And I think that's a, I think of all things that's maybe the greatest goal that someone can emerge to or, or take on as a human. What are the 10 alignments? Can you talk about that? Cary Jack: Yeah, for sure, man. So I basically broke my life down into these 10 areas. These 10 alignments, I call them the first one is persistent personal development, right? I believe you have to be growing each and every day in some way. So for me, I have a happy hustle hack attached to each of the 10 alignments. And I'm happy to run through those with you and your audience so that they can actually like, not just listen to this, but then actually implement it, right? Like it's great podcasts, you know, the knowledge out there that you can acquire from them, but then take it a step further and implement them. So I want to, Wade Lightheart: So one of the that's one of my things I've been noticing that society has seen too with this whole digital tech has become voyeurs to life. But in other words, they don't actually, yeah, they, they, they just consume this video footage or this whatever audio and, and they take, they get the drug hit of the, Oh, I learned this or I, I, I got this new trick, but they, they keep running the addiction. It's kind of like fast food for life. You get junk food for life. It's good, but it's awesome. It tastes good, but there's no application to it. So the application is the key. Yeah. So let's go into this these 10 things. Cary Jack: Yeah, for sure. So the first one, as I mentioned is persistent personal development. And for me, I have a 90 minute personal development system. It's a rule for me every day. I focus 30 minutes of my morning on reading something educational and inspirational, 30 minutes in my afternoon, listening to something inspirational and educational. And then 30 minutes in my evening watching something inspirational and educational. Now, if that seems like a lot, build your way up to it, start with 15, 15, 15, right. And get yourself going in that momentum where you're, you know, you are the sum of your five closest relationships say, right? That's a cliche saying, but it is true. Totally true. Like now you're almost more a product of what you consume. Yes. Not who you surround yourself with because now we're all in the pandemic in this digital age. So it's more important than ever to focus on what you're consuming, what you put in your brain. Cary Jack: Right? So that's my, you know, happy hustle hack for persistent personal development. Love it. The next one is called optimized health. Obviously health equals wealth. This is right up your alley. And you know more about health than just about anyone I know Wade. So like, I'm not gonna go too deep into this one. Cause I know your audience is super educated, but for me, one thing, one happy hustle hack that I have besides just obviously exercising the body, you know, every single day in some way and eating healthy, organic foods, I have triggers set up in my life. So for instance, one happy hustle hack for my health is a trigger to do my Nakey pushups. I call them hashtag Nakey push-ups if you do them, give your boy a shout out every shower or bath, any every, I mean, I've been doing this since I can even remember, but before I shower or do any bath, I max out on pushups, Pulitzer sit-ups Nakey. Cary Jack: Let's just like when I get naked, I know it's time to do Nakey pushups. It's a trick. It's hilarious. It's a trigger. I love it. So that's, you know, I mean, yes, it equates to some dogs slapping and you're on the floor, but you know, it isn't what it did, but it's a trigger, right. Set up triggers in your life for your health. And that's the important takeaway there. Beautiful. You liked that one. We'll get Nakey. Nakey pushups, are trending, Wade. All right, there you go. Okay. The next one is loving relationships, right? What's it all for? What's all the happy hustling for, if you don't have love in your life, right? You got to double down on the most important thing. And that is often our relationships. You can have all the success and the money in the world, but if you're not, if you're not happy because you're, you know, relationships falling apart because your kids don't love you or respect you, what the heck is it all for? Cary Jack: You know, oftentimes you see people ascending this mountain top, and then they get to the top of the mountain. And they're the only one there, Wade, you know? And it's like, they've isolated everyone. So Happy Hustle hack for, for loving relationships. This is something that I do with my my partner, my, my significant other Step. We have a love calendar. So I actually quantify cause what you can measure, you can change. So I write down every single day, my, my number one to 10, 10 being lots of love, sex, passion, joy, right? One being terrible. We fought all day. Right. So I asked her in the evening every day, Hey Step, what was your number? She'll tell me, Oh, Hey, you know, mine was a seven, this, this and that. So, okay. Yeah, mine was, mine was an eight, you know, we did this, this and that. Cary Jack: Okay. So it's a love day five and above equals a love day. We put a 7.5 cause we average our two scores and I, and I put a heart around it. It's on a whiteboard. I know it. Then at the end of the month, I look, I say, Oh, actually we had, you know, three, not, not love days, you know, that we need to pivot from or learn from. And you know, 27 love days. That's, that's a good average for this week or this month, you know? Right. And so we can quantify it. We can really, That's something Wade Lightheart: Putting some accounting in the thing as opposed to just, Hey, what do you know? And that's a really, really,uanother friend of mine. UKeith Yackey,uhe runs,uhe runs a dating thing and he has these bucket there. These buckets that you've got to see if the buckets are full. And, and then he gives his wife a rating and she gives him a rating and they meet on this and they go, okay, what bucket are we not dealing with? Right. And the point, meaning you're creating an accounting system to measure. So you're getting feedback from your partner in front of yourself as like, okay, how am I showing up here? Yep. Because you know,uI know when my own self, when that things got out of control, I mean, it cost me a relationship right. Straight up, but that's, that's what it did. It cost me a business relationship. It cost me some friends and it cost me a,ua significant other relationship because you know, there's a certain point that when you just drain the drunk tank, dry that you just never get to fill it back up again. Cary Jack: Yep. Yeah, man. It's and it's all too common, especially with entrepreneurs Totally. And we burn the candle at both ends and who really suffers is our loved ones. The ones we care the most about the ones we say we're doing it for. Right. Wade Lightheart: Exactly. Exactly. Cary Jack: So that, it's an important one, but at the love calendars, a Happy Hustle Hack for loving relationships. Now, if you don't have, and I'm going to take it a step further, if you don't have right now, your ideal partner, I want to help you manifest them. And this is something I call the perfect partner page. And I basically did this to find the love of my life. And I, and I know it's effective and I know it works. Because Hey, let's face it. If you're shooting a bow and arrow and you don't have a clear target, you will never hit the bullseye. Correct. And a lot of people go out there in life and they, they try to accomplish goals without a clear, you know, bullseye, what they're after, same thing with your love life. So I urge everyone to write out the perfect partner page, everything about them, their personality, their looks, their morals, their beliefs, their vision, their goals, everything about them, their family, how many kids they want, you have to manifest. Cary Jack: You have to know what you're looking for and in order to achieve it. Right. And so if anyone out there, you know, is maybe not in the perfect relationship or single and looking for a better relationship, I urge you all to do the perfect partner page. And I have a whole episode I did on this, on my podcast, The Happy Hustle that people can dig into it. And I also have a resource where we can talk about at the end, where people want to actually quantify where they stand in each of these 10 alignments. I have a free quiz that everyone can go to and kind of awesome. Actually figure out where you're at. That's great. You know? So that's, that's the third alignment, loving relationships. The fourth, well, purposeful work, right? Right. You know, if you don't have purpose in your work, then you'll often lose motivation and fail because adversity will strike Wade. Cary Jack: You know this, I mean, it's inevitable. Wade Lightheart: Yeah. No one human condition, no one gets out alive. Cary Jack: Exactly. So it's like, you might as well persevere past adversity for something you care about something you're motivated to achieve. And you know, you can really break it down. As simply as this, you're either going to build someone else's dream or you're going to build your dream. That's pretty much it, you know, and sometimes that doesn't mean you actually have to be a number one. You could be a number two and still build your dream. And you can support someone who is the number one, AKA like a entrepreneur and be the vice-president. Right. But the point is you have to infuse that meaning in your work and my Happy Hustle Hack for this one is from my good friends at brand builders group. I went through this to build my own personal brand and they asked these three very important questions that I want to ask all your audience right now, if you're struggling for purpose and you're struggling for meaning in your work, answer these three questions. Cary Jack: Number one, what problem do you feel called to solve? What problem do you feel called to solve? Number two, who do you feel called to solve it for? Right. Who do you feel called to solve that problem for? I mean, and not just demographics, right? But psychographics as well, get so clear on who you want to solve your problem for. Cause you could be solving a great problem that really speaks to your soul, but be working with people who you really don't like, and you are not going to have purpose for work. You know, you're going to be solving a problem for people you don't want to be around. So answer those two questions. And then number three, what is your uniqueness and how can you exploit in the service of others? What is your uniqueness and how can you exploit in the service of others answered those three questions. My friends, and you will get purposeful work. Beautiful. Next one. So the next one is mindful spirituality, mindful spirituality, right? Meditation, gratitude, stillness, all components of happy hustling, mindful spirituality. And right now it's more important than ever to tap into mindful spirituality because we're inundated with tech and devices and notifications and dopamine dumps from left and right. And everyone whining for our attention at this latest happen. This latest, shiny object is this gurus telling you this thing, you got to just take a moment and tap into yourself in your breath. Cary Jack: Okay. Just breathe. You know, and I mean, for this, I mean, it really is. You could go so deep on this. I'm sure. Wade. But like for what's extremely important is that I focus on meditation every day, even just a five minute stillness session or where I'm just focused on my breath in gratitude, meditation and gratitude. Right? I mean, everyone talks about them, but are you actually practicing them right. Wade Lightheart: Practices where it expands. Cary Jack: Yep, exactly. So, you know, for me, I do this every morning and then I also take it a step further. My Happy Hustle Hack that I really want to share with the listeners out there is I am mantras, right? I do my, I am mantras twice a day in the morning and in the evening. And I manifest and I speak into my reality, all the things that I wish to become, right. I am the world's greatest, happy hustler. Yes. I am focused and disciplined. I'm a positive global change maker who educates, inspires and entertains a hundred million people every single year. Like I say, these things every day, twice a day, you know, and they have no choice, but to come true with, Wade Lightheart: Yeah, it's a vibration actually that builds up and, and you know, almost every super elite performer and a high end coach, Tony Robbins on all down, they all do the same thing. They all start making these affirmations. The I AMS. Yeah, exactly. Cary Jack: Yeah, exactly. So that is mindful spirituality, number six, financial abundance, right? I mean, let's face it. If you're living paycheck to paycheck, if you're barely paying your bills, if you're struggling and stressed about money, well, you're not going to be happy, hustling a life you love. So you have to take finances seriously. And I really think it starts with financial literacy, right? If you don't know the difference between a stock and a bond right now, it's, it's 100% because ignorance, right? Because you have everything in your power, right at the fingertip to determine that you're being, you choose, you choose to not educate yourself, to become financially literate. You must choose to educate yourself, right. And to become financially abundant, you must set up a system for saving, investing in spending your hard earned dollars wisely. Right. And that's what it really comes down to saving, investing and spending your hard earned dollars wisely and Happy Hustle Hack that I use. Cary Jack: I use a, a couple of different tech tools. I'm happy to drop here on the show. Personal Capital is one, it's a solid web based platform. It basically allows you to see your whole financial wellbeing in its entirety. Right? That's great. And you have to be able to see that, like I have, you know, a portfolio investment, I have a savings account. I have a business account. I have all this and it's everywhere. Right. But if I can see a snapshot of my net worth and how I can grow it and where my budget's at and all the things in one dashboard every day, I know I'm financially literate. Right? The second thing is a, is an app called acorns. There's a couple out there. I use acorns, but it automates every single, every single month it pulls from my account. And then I set up basically these reoccurring drops. So every single payment that I pay with the certain cards gets routed to my acorns account. So I'm saving and investing on autopilot. Right? Nice, that's great. And with tech these days, Wade Lightheart: You can automate it. It's better because then you don't have to think about it, right? So you don't take up energy. Cary Jack: Exactly. Man, we got enough things on our plate. You know, if we're going to happy hustle, we need to leverage tech and leverage our time. And yeah. Wade Lightheart: Otherwise tech is leveraging us. They're leveraging units, our attention units. And so if we were to CounterTack, we need our own tech to fight the machine of distractions. Cary Jack: 100% brother you're preaching to the choir. So, so that's, that's financial abundance, right. Then the next we have passionate hobbies, number seven number. I mean, this is one of my favorite alignments, right. But life is no fun when you're not having it. Right. Identify the things you love to do and integrate each into your quote unquote busy schedule, right? Yes. Everyone, like, you know, is, is grinding and hustling so hard, but for what, if you can't go snowboarding on a Tuesday, if you can't go fly fishing, when the fish are biting in the evening, you know, if you can't, you know, spend a night with your lover and watch a movie and have a nice meal, you know, because you sold yourself into a corner with your coaching program, you know, which I've done. Right. Right. You know where you're like, you're trading your time for money and then you have no more time. Cary Jack: And you're like, Oh, I got money, but I don't have time. You know? Yep. So this is like one of my favorite alignments Wade, I love it. Because it's all about having fun. You know? Love it. And for me, you know, I love martial arts. So I schedule online Krav Maga class, you know, every single week I play soccer, I used to play semi-pro soccer. You know, my goal was to play for the USA national team. I tore my ACL and broke my ankle. So that goal was shot, but I still like to get after it. And co-ed so I got Monday night soccer, you know, Fridays, I got archery league, you know, and, and then I got fly fishing, whatever I can go fishing. I go, you know, and then I have my snowboarding on the weekends. Love it. I know that I'm doing fun things in my routine, which balances my work efforts. Right? The biggest happy hustle hack that I could ever bestow upon thee is treating your passionate hobbies with the same priority. As you do your work, treating your passionate hobbies with the same priority, the same urgency they get scheduled. The same as your meeting Wade Lightheart: Is the same as your meetings. Beautiful. Beautiful. Cary Jack: So that's, that is, you know, a key differentiating factor there. Next step, this one's a doozy selfless service, right? I mean the secret to living is giving, right? Like Tony Robbins says it really is. You will find the greatest fulfillment when you're actually giving back to others and you can give your time. You can give your expertise and slash, or you can give your money right. To less fortunate people or causes that you feel passionate about. But the point is you must give, you have to find a way to give. And for me, you know, once again I schedule giving, right, this is a Happy Hustle Hack. I schedule my giving. Like I'll put it on the counter or, Hey, I'm this, this week I'm going to the, you know, native American reservation here in Montana, I'm going to do an online entrepreneurship class, the reservation kids, right. Cary Jack: I schedule it or, you know, Hey, this week, this week, you know, I know I'm hopping on and I'm doing a masterclass for these people. Or Hey, like I'm giving time, I'm giving expertise. And then I automate my, my money giving. Now this one's key. I use an app called Kiva. K I V a, it's basically a website that allows you to give micro loans, AKA donations, to third world countries, social entrepreneurs. Beautiful. It's such a cool concept, but the a hundred percent of your donations, your micro loans go directly to the individual or cause that you're supporting. So I just have it pulled from my account every single month. I don't even touch it, but I know I'm doing good to see it go getting suck for my account, you know? Beautiful, beautiful. That's another way to leverage tech to do good and to practice selfless service. Wade Lightheart: Great, great stuff. Great stuff. I know he Harv Eker. I remember he suggested to people, he said, you want to give what you have the least of. So if you don't have much money, give money, he says, if you don't have much time, give time Yeah. To kind of really juxtaposition that. And it seems counterintuitive. And I also was another with another spiritual person, a kind of a master. And he had said that when people came to giving you know, people would say, well, you need to give away 10% or whatever that, or there's a tiding thing of one 24th or whatever. He says, people that were that struggled with economics, he said, give 20 people, like, what do you mean give 20 said you need to rewrite the abundance program in your head. Yep. And that became a, it was an interesting thing then. And when applied it's effective. Cary Jack: Yeah, man. Love that. That it's such a, it's such a great point. Wade Lightheart: Can you do it all? You need do it all. So let's go to the next one. Let's go to refer on from selfless service. Cary Jack: Yeah. Next step. We got nature connection, right? I mean, let's face it. We're living like zoo animals, you know, this Wade, like being in the biohacking world, we're getting just inundated from EMFs, you know, and we're, we're getting toxic blue light just shined upon us at every moment we're indoors. And you know, and then we, we transitioned from our office cages to our cage on wheels to then get to our cage in our homes. And you know, our limited, these little boxes, we weren't designed to live like this. No. We weren't, we were designed to be outside, to be getting up with the sun to be going to bed with the sun to be tapping in and grounding to mother earth. And so the biggest thing with nature connection is just to get outside more right. To infuse. Nature's wonders back into your life. I mean, go for a walk today. Cary Jack: Like just, you know, walk outside barefoot and jump in a natural body of water or, you know, go on a hike or camp out overnight, or just find ways to, to put your phone down and pick your head up and get your ass outside, you know? And that's what it comes down to the happy Hustle act there. I do. I mean, you know, I'll be just straight up with you. I I've been missing sometimes my Sunday di digital detoxes, but I try every Sunday to just do a full digital detox, you know, where I don't touch tech all day and it's like, resets me, you know, I'm ready to cry. Wade Lightheart: People can start by just taking their phone, leaving inside and going for a walk and actually feel the withdrawal from that. And then the sense of, Hey, this is not part of me. And I, I think it was Elon Musk said that most people haven't recognizes that we've become cyborgs already. Problem is the interface is slow. I thought, well, that's an interesting thought, right? Cary Jack: Yeah, yeah, yeah, Yeah. It's true. It's like, we're so dependent on our device and I'm guilty too, because I'm an online entrepreneur. I have to be online, but like you can use tech. You don't have to let it use you and you can be control. You can put your phone on airplane mode when you're not using it. You can unplug your wifi at night. You can wear blue blockers. Right. You can do some of these bio-hacks that really do make a big difference. Right? So that's Wade Lightheart: So important. It's so important. I'm looking over this list. It's such a great, well thought out list. Thank you man. Another one, right? Cary Jack: This is the granddaddy of them. All right. And that's blissful balance. I mean, this is balanced to me is the key to unlocking the life you love. It really is like to meet balance equals happiness. That is it. And you'll hear people say, Oh, you got to hustle your off in seasons. And then you can find balance later. You know? And I disagree. I really do. I disagree. I think you, and I've done it. I've done both. Right. And I'll tell you what, I'm making more money now and happier now than I've ever been. And I'm more balanced than ever because of, you know, and it's like balance is the key to unlock and life you love. And right now, in order to find out where you may be lacking, you can take the Happy Hustle Quiz and you can then prioritize change accordingly. Oh, Hey, you know what loving relationships only a, a three out of five, but you know what one I'm really lacking in selfless service. I'm a one out of five. I need to prioritize change in that, like right away, you know? And so when you measure it and I measure every Sunday, like I do my own quiz every Sunday WOW. And I'm like, Oh, well, this week I did this, you know, I'm a little off here. How are you going to stay? Like it's balances. Balance is a moving target. You know, you're not like, Oh, bounce, good for life. You know, that's not a thing. Wade Lightheart: So yeah, life is very dynamic and it has all sorts of different emerging pressures and reliefs. This has been so on point and so great about, because I think so many people in the health world get kind of locked into, you know, what supplement am I taking? Or what new hack am I doing? Or how am I, you know, leveraging this sort of stuff. But you've kind of laid it out here in such a beautiful and articulate way. I think our listeners are gonna love it. Where do they get access to this quiz? How do we get at it? How do we get the, how do we practice the 10 alignments to be the happy hustlers that we all want to be? Where do we get all this information? How do we reach you? Okay. Cary Jack: Yeah, man. I would just say to anyone out there who wants to dive deeper into this, you know, proprietary framework, like it will be a book in coming out in Q2. It's, it's been a labor of love, but until then I have an online course it's called the journey 10 days to becoming a happy hustler. You can go to the happy hustle.com and we actually got a code set up for Wade in your awesome audience. If you plug in code Wade, you save 25%. So that's pretty awesome to get the hookup for everybody. So the happy hustle.com and then if you want, you know, to actually just get a free resource, like they just get you, you know, the kickstart for like the quiz and the ebook and all that. You can just go to Caryjack.com. So pretty simple. Okay. Wade Lightheart: Can you spell that out? Can you spell that? C a R Y Cary Jack: J A C k.com there. You'll see, you know you just put your email in, you get the ebook and I highly recommend don't just get the book, read the ebook, you know, and like actually implement it. You know, like I give away all the things I just said in so much more in this ebook. It's gold, it's absolute gold. And, and then if you want to take it a step further, well, just click the little tab that says, take the quiz on my website to take the quiz, another free resource, to figure out where you're lacking. And then if you do want to take the next step, then you can join the journey. The 10, 10 days to become a happy hustler, save 25% using the code Wade. But I mean, I'm telling you, this is some of my best work, 10 day video course with the actual takeaways, with the, like the actual, you know, Happy Hustle Hacks the resources, everything in there. I mean, if, if someone's serious about this stuff, it's right there in front of you for the taking, find that balance. And I'm telling you, you will happy hustle your dream. Right? Wade Lightheart: Ladies and gentlemen, Mr. Cary Jack he is a man that lives what he preaches. He's been to the mountain down to the Valley and he's climbed another one. And he's living the happy hustle. It's not just a tagline. It's not just a way, but he's probably broke this down better than any single person I've had on the awesome health podcast. And I want to thank you on behalf of our listeners and our viewers around the world is watching this on YouTube. Thanks so much for joining us today on the Awesome Health Podcast from BiOptimizers. I'm Wade T Lightheart. This was Cary Jack. I hope you jump into his site and use this. I think in today's world, it's absolutely essential. And until then, we'll see you next time on the Awesome Health Podcast. Cary Jack: It's in love. Y'all thanks again.